Take My Advice - I Don't Use It Anyway

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't." - Erica Jong

We often look for other people advice. We are sometimes uncertain or uncomfortable with a decision. Several times we take some advice because it makes us feel more confident and at the same time less responsible since after all it was a 'shared decision' (by the way, that's why so many businesses rely on external highly-paid consultants).

Often there is the case of cognitive dissonance, which is an uncomfortable feeling caused by holding two contradictory ideas at the same time in your mind. Most of the cases, a decision is already made on an emotional basis, but the rational side of the brain can not find logical reasons or arguments to sustain that decision. No matter how many people we turn to for advice, no matter how logical all the arguments may be, we will inevitably follow the emotional decision, the heart always wins.

I think that you can (and sometimes you should) ask for opinions from people you trust to be honest and tell you the truth, even if you don't want to hear it, but at all times you have to make up your mind on your own. The final decision is yours and yours alone, and you have to make your own path taking at all times full responsibility for you and for your life.

So my advice to the reader is - don't take advice!